“Losers assemble in small groups and complain about the coaches and other players, winners assemble as a team and find ways to win.”
A powerful quote from Coach Bill Parcells. While he was talking about football, I think there’s enough carryover to touch on.
It’s always confusing when a person blames another person for their shortcomings. In the gym setting it can be common if left unchecked, unfortunately. It’s just easier for the weak minded to blame others. It’s difficult to look in and honestly assess yourself. It’s simpler to point fingers at others rather than truthfully face your own effort.
We’ve all seen the person who tries to divide. This is another common tactic employed by the miserable. They say misery loves company, and I happen to agree. Let’s be honest, it’s easier to blame someone else for your troubles if you have backup.
What to do instead…
If you’re faced with adversity the first thing you need to do is assemble your team. Put people around you that you value. Find those who are invested in you, but more importantly those who you’re invested in. That’s the “always help” mindset. By valuing and serving others you create a reason for them to become interested in returning the favor. It’s a win-win and it will develop a deep bond if it’s genuine. Be genuine!
We don’t need to go into the next step because you and your team will have it under control.